I've learned so much and if I had more time I'd love to share some of the major things I've learned, but the one thing I know I've learned is that in our first world way of living--you don't get dealt hands and life doesn't just give you a future, you make it. It's not easy-but nothing worth doing ever is. But you can make the life you want for yourself--it may take time, there will absolutely be setbacks and challenges, and it will take a great deal of patience and faith--in yourself, in God, in those around you, but you can do it. That's truly the one lesson I am thrilled to walkaway with.
So that's the word of the year I've decided to focus my goal-setting on:
Last year I made a resoultion or goal to simplify my life in some way every month. I mapped out the entire year before January 1st. But so much ended up changing last year. I went from an exhausted person who felt trapped in her body with no hopes of moving forward toward her financial goals on one income--to a well-rested mom, with an ideal work-from-home situation, with a much healthier relationship with food, exercise, and her body. EVERYTHING changed last year and so my goals were much harder to stick with. The life I was living in January changed drastically--schedule-wise, needs-wise, wants-wise and more.
This year, I want to set monthly goals but I'm going to do them one at a time. And I'm going to set several goals each month using two sets of criteria--using my word of the year and using these areas of focus: homemaking, financial, work, health, spiritual, motherhood, and marriage/date night.
I will set 8 goals in each of those areas each month. Ultimately I hope to
Make my home more "us" and make small and manageable changes that will help any who enter our house quickly recognize our values and priorities.
Make our financial situation more of what we want. Whether that's making a better budget plan, making better strides in our efforts to become debt free, or something else entirely--we'll see where the year takes us by setting a goal to make our financial situation more what we want it to be.
I'm going to make my work from home situation more ideal for our family. It is right now (with a few kinks) but it's not permament. I will need to put great effort into finishing out my work in June and finding a new situation that fulfills our financial needs as well as my personal needs.
I'm going to make my body healthier. No, I'm not setting a weight loss goal--for probably the first year ever. Instead, I'm just going to keep finding healthy recipes, keep moving in ways that I find enjoyable, and keep working on finding a healthy relationship with food. I've made such great strides that I can't wait to MAKE more in 2016.
I'm going to make my faith stronger. I am going to make more efforts to attend the temple, read my scriptures/other spiritually edifying literature, and more. This area needs to be a constant focus so I'm going to make it such.
I'm going to make motherhood what I want it to be. That doesn't mean that I can't control JaiseAnn's bouts of displeasure when she throws a fit or that I can control her good/bad moments, or even her sleep. But I can make myself the mom I want to be. I won't be perfect but I can do things that help me make better choices in response to those patience-trying moments. I also want to create a healthy home life and schedule that helps both JaiseAnn and I thrive.
And last, but certainly not least--I'm going to make my marriage more of what I want it to be. Whether that means I need to make personal goals to change my attitude or approaches or I need to make plans to do things with Zach that improve our marriage. We are much stronger than ever before, but I really want to strive for continuing that as well as finding more peace, more compromise, and better communication in some things.
I'm going to focus on the things that matter to me each month of 2016 and MAKE it a year to remember and a year to see changes. I'm expecting miracles in 2016--I just feel them.
I will share a bit of my goals each month with you-though I might not share them all--but I will check in here. I never think those posts are super popular, but I actually like reading them on other blogs and so I will be doing so here-for my own accountability and maybe to inspire someone else.
How do you approach New Year's Resolutions?