Wednesday, March 18, 2015

I Love You, Too Mom~Mothering at the Breast

When JaiseAnn was about five months old she would grab my fingers and hold them tightly when she went to nurse. In response to this I would always say to her, "I love you, too!" Though my daughter was and still is unable to verbally express her love for me. I like to think that I have been able to hear her "I love you's" for months now.


Breastfeeding bonding

Now instead of grasping my fingers, she rubs her open hand in circles on my chest while she nurses.

Now, at bedtime, she snuggles up next to me in order to fall asleep.

When she wakes up in the morning, she gives me the biggest smile. Then she moves over to Zach and lays her head on his chest. "I love you, Dad!"

When she's upset and I go to comfort her, my presence alone is often all she needs.

Our newest thing has been "giving five" during a nursing session. While JaiseAnn nurses I slap her hand in a "giving five" gesture and say, "I love you!" One "five" for every word-I.love.you. It truly melts my heart when JaiseAnn puts her hand up to give five first. And while we exchange our own little message, she smiles so big.

 I can't help but think about what a big role breastfeeding has played in our relationship. How it has given me a chance to take a calm few moments throughout each day and just be with my daughter. Our relationship was built on breastfeeding and many situations that have been a result of breastfeeding. I know that mothers bond with their children a number of ways, but this is the way that I have had a chance to mother and bond with my daughter and I wouldn't change it for anything. I love the way the breastfeeding relationship has shaped me as a mom and has directed our dynamic.

(Nursing has been a huge blessing for our family and we are still nursing at fourteen months. I do not advocate that all women should nurse--I do know that each situation is unique, but I think more women should have more information and be more informed about nursing. I love the Breastfeeding Diaries series over at The Girl in the Red Shoes because it offers  more insight into the REAL world of breastfeeding and it provides a sense of community. I am honored to be sharing MY breastfeeding story there today!)




How do you bond with YOUR baby/kids? Are there any choices you've made that have directly influenced your relationship with your child?

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