Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Girl Talk--Social Media and Comparison

Social media and I have a love/hate relationship. How about you? Aside from blogs and Pinterest, I ditched Facebook years ago and have honestly never looked back. Then I started blogging again AND I had pictures of my baby to share with the world...so I was welcomed to the world of Instagram and Twitter.

Social media definitely has its positives, but it also has its downfalls. I'm sharing two bloggers today who explain their thoughts on the good and bad of social media and how to fight the urge to compete.

Meet Brooke

 What are some ways that social media motivates you to be better?

 I am constantly being inspired and uplifted by quotes and videos that are posted on social media. I also love to read blog posts of others, and there have been times when I swear someone is writing their experience just for me, in a time when I desperately need that message. By relating to these men and women, I feel inspired by them and more motivated to be better.

 What are some ways that social media makes you doubt yourself?

Social media makes me doubt myself almost constantly! It's so easy to see the best moments people post on social media, and compare them to the worst moments of your life. If you let it, social media can make you feel poor, ugly, fat, unhappy, inferior, and not worthy of love in a matter of minutes.

 How do you combat the urge to compare yourself with images and messages on social media?

I like to think of the quote "Comparison is the thief of joy" that's attributed to Theodore Roosevelt. I'm not even close to being perfect at this, but when I find myself comparing myself to others on social media, I have to tell myself firmly to stop. Even when I come out better in the comparison, no comparing makes me feel happy. When I feel myself being jealous of someone's apparently perfect life on social media, I start making a list of things in my head that truly make me happy. That makes me realize that if I had that person's home or dress size or whatever, it would not make me truly happy.

Posts by Brooke on this topic: The Not So Sunny Side of Me~On Beauty and My Postpartum Body

Connect with Brooke: Bloglovin~Facebook~Instagram~Pinterest~Twitter

Meet Renae
 What are some ways that social media motivates you to be better?

Since most people only post the good things in their lives on social media, it makes me motivated to look at the good things in my life that I can post about. Sometimes I will plan something fun to do for myself or my son since I saw someone else do it on Facebook, like a trip to the apple farm or a fall themed pedicure. I can also ask for advice publicly on a wide variety of topics and learn through other people's trial and error.

 What are some ways that social media makes you doubt yourself?

Although everyone knows that life isn't fair, sometimes social media can turn into a game of comparison. I could scroll through a friend's photos and think " wow, I wish I had the money to go there" or "man their daughter is so lucky that her mom can stay home with her". In the end you just have to take a step back and realize that their life isn't your life and it never will be. I have things that they don't have but they are just different.

How do you combat the urge to compare yourself with images and messages on social media?

I like to think about how lucky I am to have the things I have. I may not be rich or drop-dead gorgeous but I do have it pretty good! Plus, people only will post the good things about their lives. You never know what is actually happening on the other side of the screen.

Posts Suggested by Renae on this topic: #FullDisclosureFriday

 Connect with Renae: Bloglovin~Facebook~Instagram~Pinterest~Twitter

What about you? What are your views on social media? How do you fight the urge to compete?

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